When you are making a financial decision, do you intentionally weigh the potential risks and rewards? Is weighing that balance more of a rational or emotional process for you? In other words, do you tend to rely more on facts or on feelings?
For example, when Karla got a promotion at the architectural firm where she is employed, she gave serious consideration to buying a new car. She thought about the practical and emotional rewards of having a new car such as: 1) having a dependable means of transportation, 2) getting better gas mileage, 3) portraying a successful image to her clients, and 4) experiencing the pride and pleasure that comes with owning a new car (there’s nothing like that new car smell!). (more…)
By: Vidhya Babu
You have an estate plan. In fact you just created one last year. So why would your estate plan need a makeover? Estate plans should never be rigid or concrete. Instead they should be malleable and easily adapted to meet your current situation. After all, an estate plan you created a year ago (or longer) may not reflect your current situation. In the event that something should happen to you, an out-of-date estate plan can cause contention and strife among beneficiaries.
When deciding whether your estate plan needs a makeover, ask yourself the following questions: (more…)
Our financial relationships involve connections with others that affect our financial well-being and life satisfaction. Without a doubt, the complex circumstances and evolving dynamics of each relationship can have a profound influence (consciously and subconsciously) on the big and little decisions we make on a daily basis.
Nowhere is the influence of emotions on financial behavior more clearly illustrated than in family relationships. In particular the needs and wants of our children and our parents can weigh heavy on our hearts and minds and undermine our objectivity. The following questions will help you to reflect on and assess your financial responsibilities across generations: (more…)
Many of us spend our lives trying to please others or pursuing goals that others have set for us. In contrast, the authors of Invest in Yourself, Marc Eisenson, Gerri Detweiler, and Nancy Castleman, advocate the self-designed life—the conscious choice to “invest your time and energy getting what you want and doing what you believe in—not wasting them on things you don’t really want, but think you should have.” In fact, they wholeheartedly recommend setting the bar high, “no matter what you are aiming for in life.”
The first step to taking charge of your life is clarifying your values and priorities. The reason this exercise in self-reflection is so powerful is because identifying what is most important to you will increase your self-understanding and strengthen your sense of autonomy. An excellent resource to help you in this process is Values Clarification by Sidney Simon, Leland Howe, and Howard Kirschenbaum. This book is described as “the classic guide to discovering your truest feelings, beliefs, and goals.” (more…)
“We should never let reality interfere with our dreams.
Reality can’t see what we can see.” —Simon Sinek
Goals are targets—something to aim for. They give life a sense of purpose and direction. In addition, setting goals is a proactive way of designing your life, initiating positive change, and preparing for the future. (more…)
Our attitudes and beliefs about money have their roots in value-laden messages that we have picked up along life’s journey. These money messages are not only clothed in the words of others, but in their behaviors as well.
The authors of Wired for Wealth (Brad Klontz, Rick Kahler, and Ted Klontz) write that all of our financial actions—or inactions—make perfect sense when we understand what “money scripts” drive those behaviors.
“Money scripts are the thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes that we hold about money. Many of our associations are hidden deeply in the unconscious mind.” (more…)
As we grow older, we also have the opportunity to grow as individuals and to develop relationships that are more “grown-up.” Here is advice from the authors of three different books on ways, through our relationships, that we can contribute to our own personal growth and happiness.
In Creative Aging, author Nancy Bost Millner wrote, “The task of consciously aging people is to stop projecting—to stop demanding that the weather, the children, and the universe do what they want them to do.” Milner also noted that the self-aware individual will come to realize that expecting another person to complete them, take care of them, and make them happy is not only unrealistic, but also unfair. (more…)
For many years, the prevailing theory was that individuals have a genetically determined happiness set point.
In other words, scientists believed that each person could temporarily experience more happiness (depending on circumstances, relationships, and life events), but would then slide back to his or her “pre-programmed” set point. In fact, less than two decades ago, one researcher was quoted as saying, “It may be that trying to be happier is as futile as trying to be taller.” (more…)
Five Wishes™ is an advance directive template created by the non-profit organization Aging with Dignity. It is an easy to use legal document written in everyday language that helps you communicate how you want to be cared for in case you become seriously ill or incapacitated.
Your Five Wishes document lets your family and doctors know:
- Who you want to make health care decisions for you when you can’t make them yourself.
- The kind of medical treatment you want or don’t want.
- How comfortable you want to be.
- How you want people to treat you.
- What you want your loved ones to know.
In his book Getting Things Done, author David Allen wrote, “We know that the focus we hold in our minds affects what we perceive and how we perform.”
Therefore, as you visualize the lifestyle and quality of life that you would like to have in the future, always remember that the secret to realizing your dreams is to maintain that image in your mind.
In fact, the greater your understanding of what is important to you, the easier it will be to “paint a picture” in your mind of what you are working toward. Whatever you identify and claim for yourself will become the basis for your life goals. (more…)