I became a mom for the first time in 1999. Three kids and nearly 14 years later, I have used many ineffective parenting techniques. Time-outs turned out to be one of the least effective. Especially with my youngest, Sammy, time-outs turned into a real battle – a losing battle – and MOM was the loser!
I have found new and helpful ideas in many parenting book and have attended the occasional parenting lecture over the years. However, while I was stuck in the losing time-out cycle with Sammy, I decided to attend a parenting class and then individual coaching sessions with Cynthia Klein. Her approach has been influenced by Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand Parenting. What I learned transformed many of my ideas about parenting and dramatically improved my relationship with my son as well as my daughters. (more…)
Do you remember the 1983 movie “Mr. Mom,” in which Michael Keaton struggled with the role reversal of being a stay-at-home dad? Do you remember all the things he had to learn to run the household? It was hilariously funny to watch Keaton struggle to do all of the tasks that Teri Garr handled so effortlessly. Moms of the day could relate! The movie shone a spotlight on the value provided by the stay-at-home spouse and difficulty in replacing that person’s skills.
The role of the stay-at-home parent is an incredibly valuable job. Just imagine the cost of hiring someone, an outsider, to perform all the tasks required to efficiently run your household on a daily basis. One estimate of the value of the tasks performed by the stay-at-home parent, in 2009 dollars, was over $122,000. (more…)
by Cynthia Klein
To win cooperation from strong-willed children, focus on not being adversarial, pleading, or fearful of resistance. These types of responses feel disrespectful or weak which diminish your authority and often open the door to power struggles. Avoid these common responses. (more…)
By Cynthia Klein
The prefrontal cortex, the part of the frontal lobes lying just behind the forehead, is often referred to as the “CEO of the brain.” This brain region is responsible for cognitive analysis and abstract thought, and the moderation of “correct” behavior in social situations. The prefrontal cortex takes in information from all of the senses and orchestrates thoughts and actions to achieve specific goals.1,2
The prefrontal cortex is one of the last regions of the brain to reach maturation. This delay may help to explain why some adolescents act the way they do. The so-called “executive functions” of the human prefrontal cortex include: (more…)
By Cynthia Klein
Parents desire to have loving relationships with their children so they will be trusted and their children will seek them out for support and advice.
While teaching my parenting classes, it becomes clear that well-meaning parents are resorting to ineffective punishment strategies, which hurt the relationship, because they just don’t know what else to do. (more…)
By Brad Elman
As soon as we become parents, we’re focused on—and understandably a bit obsessed with—protecting our kids. We swaddle them to shield them from a chill, and we buckle them up in the stroller and car.
That urge to safeguard our children never ends, no matter how old they get. For parents of kids with special needs, that urge to protect is nothing short of fierce, because we know that our kids will be relying on us for their whole lives … and even after we’re gone.